How to Thrive in Tough Financial times.


financeAre you Surviving or Thriving? Tips for financial success in tough times.

They say that if you took all of the wealth in the world and spread it evenly amongst all the people, within 50 years 82% of the people would be in the same economic position as they are today. This is because wealth is behavior-based and less dependent on outside factors than you may realize.
Times are tough financially for most people. That’s no news. What’s important is learning how to thrive instead of just learning to survive. Use this tough market as a wake-up call and condition yourself to take steps to adapt the behaviors necessary to truly build wealth for you and your family.

Recognize that thriving assumes surviving. Survival in these tough times is critical, but it’s not enough to just stop there. By focusing on thriving, survival is assured. You’ve got nothing to lose by living with an optimistic, great outlook. Here are a few good tips:

Invest in yourself.

Take the time needed to acquire knowledge for your own financial success. Most people always assume that a stockbroker or investment banker knows what is right for you. This thinking is wrong. No one will ever watch your family’s money more carefully than you will. Do your homework: it might not be what you would expect but you will be better off with the information and knowledge you gain.

Cut Back:

I know this is obvious but many people still don’t adhere to this all important financial rule. You will never get out of trouble if you spend more than you make and refuse to do something about it. This include staying away from friends or relationships that make you spend more money! A simple No does not need explanation, it’s your journey and you have to live up to your own expectation.

Bring in more bacon

While you’re trying to be frugal, you should put more energy into having more streams of income. Look around your home, what can you turn into money? If you have a spare room, you can turn list your space on with rental fee from $20/night. You can also turn your spare room into a weekend day care or nursery for kids. I remember when I was nursing my twins, I needed to make more money as a SAHM (stay at home mum), I opted to babysit other kids on weekends with my twins in tow. I set a flat fee of #1,500/child between the hours of 9 a.m to 5pm.


It takes 30 days to form a habit. No matter how little you might be making now, cultivate the habit of saving daily or monthly. It’s just a habit you develop and build overtime. Start little so you don’t stall your progress, give margin for relapse but be sure to get back up. In due time it becomes a part of you. Just a few months back, I and a group of friends decided to save daily, no matter the amount.

While surfing the net, I came across and was thrilled to find a savings platform that is really flexible. I quickly signed up, chose the monthly plan and recommended to my friends as well.

Stay Motivated

Motivation is like bathing, you need it everyday. No matter what you do, don’t give in to fear, worry or distress. Focus on things that give you fulfillment. Develop your passion, connect with your true self and enjoy your journey. Life is too short, you’re not getting out alive, thrive and don’t just survive.

Do you have tips to thrive in an economic downturn? Leave a comment below.

To your wealth & success!


Tolu Opanuga Certified Life Coach, Student of human potential/personal development helping you develop tools to create lasting success in Life.


Twitter: @ToluOpanuga








Make Space for Something New


Well, hello September!!!

How time flies,half of the year is gone already! Let’s go back to the beginning of this year,you had plans,big ones or maybe not that big,but you sure had a plan for this year. Did you achieve any of them yet? Are you stuck in a rut,confused and probably weighed down by the wealth transfer(that’s my term for economic downturn or’s all about what you see) going on in the country?

Hey, it’s okay to get stuck when you set goals,but quit or abandon those goals are really not going to help you either.You see,when you set goals, there’s bound to be obstacles along your path to fulfilling them(ouch! i know it sucks)but that’s life! I bet if everyone just had what they wanted with a snap of the finger,life wouldn’t be fun.

What are you doing about the goals you want to achieve ?

that business you wanted to start

the diet program you signed up for to stay fit and fabulous

the financial plan to save more or invest

the relationship you swore to make better

the lifestyle you promised to improve 

Here it is..when you don’t create the space (mentally,physically and emotionally) for things to happen,they just hang.Failing to complete robs you of valuable attention units.

When you commit to making a change or start a project,it goes into your memory bank and its stored in a space.You can only pay attention to many things at once and each effort to tackle your to-do list leaves no time to completing your goals and bring new opportunities and abundance into your life.

Why not ask yourself, what will it take to get this done? List all the possible ways you can achieve your goals,make sure you write it down! Trust me, a lot of times you think..oh i’ve got it but with all the distractions and noise in our world,you lose it in no time. Write it down! This way you are creating a new space for conscious and intentional completing of tasks which make up your goals.

Make space for what you want to achieve (Declutter your mind,your environment)

Empty your household…do you really need all those piles of clothes,kids toys,unworn clothings in the last six months,broken down equipment you haven’t fixed in years,all the negative self talk going on in your mind,the numerous ideas you have about something but never got around to making them useful. When your mind is cluttered with activities,there’s bound to be chaos around you.

Your work space(desk,laptops,phone,files) it’s time to trash oldies and and let in something new.Put away old clients’ file,unpaid invoices,unread books,magazines and all you may be holding onto.

Relationship: you want new love but keep holding onto memories of your ex or wishing things could be better. It’s time to clean up the mess.It’s over,because if you don’t, when a new man meets you, he picks up your unspoken message” she’s still stuck with someone,she hasn’t let go” then he leaves.

You want a new career, start acting like you have a new job even with the present job you have.

When we don’t throw away clutter and items we don’t need anymore, it’s as if we don’t trust our ability to manifest the necessary abundance in our lives.

It’s time to get back up and get going. I’ve got your back and am counting on you to make it happen.Why? because you’re worth it.

Love & brilliance!


Signs you are in an abusive relationship


There are many signs of an abusive relationship. The most telling sign is fear of your partner. If you feel like you have to walk on eggshells around your partner—constantly watching what you say and do in order to avoid a blow-up—chances are your relationship is unhealthy and abusive. Other signs that you may be in an abusive relationship include a partner who belittles you or tries to control you, and feelings of self-loathing, helplessness, and desperation.

Women don’t plan to enter into abusive relationships. In fact, many women who’ve escaped abusive relationships swear to themselves that they will never get into another one, only to find themselves becoming victims of abuse once again.

Sadly, it takes an average of five to seven acts of violence before a woman leaves her abuser. So, why not plan to avoid entering into an abusive relationship in the first place?

If your partner displays the following behaviors, it’s possible you’re in an abusive relationship.

1. He pushes for quick involvement. He comes on strong, claiming, “I’ve never felt loved like this before by anyone.” You get pressured for an exclusive commitment almost immediately.

2. There’s constant jealousy. Your partner is excessively possessive, calls constantly, or visits unexpectedly.

3. He’s controlling. He interrogates you intensely about who you talked to and where you were, checks mileage on the car, keeps all the money or asks for receipts, and insists you ask for permission to go anywhere or do anything.

4. He has very unrealistic expectations. He expects perfection from you and  for you to meet their every need.

5. There’s isolation. He tries to cut you off from family and friends, deprives you of a phone or car, or tries to prevent you from holding a job.

6. He blames others for his own mistakes. The boss, family, you — it’s always someone else’s fault if anything goes wrong.

7. He makes everyone else responsible for their feelings. The abuser says, “You make me angry” instead of “I’m angry.” “I wouldn’t get so pissed off if you wouldn’t…

8. He’s hypersensitive. He’s easily insulted and will often rant and rave about injustices that are just part of life.

9. He’s cruel to animals and children.  He kills or punishes animals brutally. He also may expect children to do things beyond their ability or tease them until they cry.

10. His uses “playful” force during sex. He enjoys throwing you down or holding you down against your will; he finds the idea of rape exciting. He intimidates, manipulates or forces you to engage in unwanted sex acts.

11. There’s verbal abuse. He constantly criticizes you or says cruel things. He degrades, curses and calls you ugly names. He will use vulnerable points about your past or current life against you.

12. There are rigid gender roles in the relationship. He expects you to serve, obey and remain at home.

13. He has sudden mood swings. He switches from loving to angry in a matter of minutes.

14. He has a past of battering. He admits to hitting women in the past, but states that they or the situation brought it on.

15. He threatens violence. He makes statements such as, “I’ll break your neck,” but then dismisses it with “I really didn’t mean it.”

If you are reading this, it means you can help save yourself and save  a life. Domestic violence is on the rise and women need to protect themselves and their children.

Abusers will always say its your fault for making him angry and abusing you.Get out fast and get help! You’re worth more than he has to give.

Love & brilliance!

Tapping into the Power of your Mind


Exploring  And Discovering The Infinite And Creative Power Of The Human Mind…Your Mind and How To Utilize It Consciously, Intentionally and Purposefully To Consistently Create Desired Results

Do you really grasp and understand the infinite potential that exists and is readily available to you to create a kind and quality of life limited only by your willingness or unwillingness to “conceive” something as possible for you?

More importantly do you know how to consciously utilize YOUR Mind Power…this very same Mind Power that we all possess without exception to consistently create desired results?

And most importantly of all, if you’re not aware, are you ready, willing and open to develop the understanding that will enable you to do so?

Because the fact of the matter is, whether you’re consciously aware of it or not, or ready to accept it or not, you’re already using your mind power every second of every minute of everyday.

You may not realize it, but the mind is very powerful. It is unlimited in potential. You can create anything you desire just by letting the mind do what it was created by God to do. Once you begin to understand the power of the mind, and learn the laws of the universe, you can reprogram your subconscious so you can obtain anything you want in life and live it to the fullest.

If you think about one thing for a minute it is this: you do not need to struggle in life to make something of yourself.

Look around you and be honest with yourself…you’ll clearly see the power of your mind and how it is, always has been and always will at work creating each and every outcome that you experience in your life.

It’s human mind power that determines EVERY aspect of your reality and it’s your individual choice or choices that determine what you will or will not experience.

Understand that your mind is like a garden,you can choose to grow flowers or weed…in order for the flower to blossom, you need to constantly water and nurture the plants  to achieve the desired outcome.Such is the human mind.

Here is a simple technique to help you tap into the incredible power of your mind to create the success you want:

Creative visualization is a mental technique that uses the imagination to make dreams and goals come true. Used in the right way, creative visualization can improve your life and attract to you success and prosperity. It is a power that can alter your environment and circumstances, cause events to happen, and attract money, possessions, work, people and love into your life.

Creative visualization uses the power of the mind, and is the power behind every success.

By visualizing a certain event, situation, or an object, you attract it into our life. It is a process that is similar to daydreaming. For some people, this might look like magic, but there is no magic involved, only the natural process of the power of thoughts and natural mental laws. It is like having a genie at your disposal!

There are people who use this technique naturally in their everyday affairs, not being aware that they are using some sort of power. All successful people use it consciously or unconsciously, attracting the success they want into their life, by visualizing their goals as already accomplished.

By changing your thoughts and mental images, you change your “Reality”. You are not employing magic or supernatural powers, but using only natural powers and laws that everyone possesses. It is not something “Material” that you change. You only change your thoughts and attitude, but they change and reshape your world.

The power of visualization is a mighty power, but there are some limits to using it. These limits are within us, not in the power.

Have you enjoyed this article? 
Share with your friends and loved ones,practice this technique and watch your life totally transformed.
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Love & Brilliance!

Tolu Opanuga

How to successfully transition from your day job to Dream Business

job to biz

The alarm goes off again and you find yourself dragging your feet to get out of bed… How long do I have to do this..(asking yourself).Every Monday morning you report to your desk, grateful for the predictable cheque but something inside is saying, “Is this really what I’m meant to be doing?”

Many women are seeking more meaningful careers.In some cases, it’s not that they don’t love their day job, but there is a greater sense of fulfilment and freedom that’s missing.

Quitting your day job to start a dream business requires a lot of courage,guts and what the just going to do it attitude!

Many people dream of leaving their nine-to-five jobs to start their own businesses. Many successful entrepreneurs had to keep their day jobs until they reached a point in their businesses when it was feasible to quit. This transition time can be stressful and difficult, especially when you don’t enjoy your job, but it doesn’t have to be.

While ambition is important, it is not always enough to move you forward. Maintaining your motivation and drive during your transition from employee to entrepreneur is crucial. It’s easy to veer off course and get discouraged during this transitional phase.

Here are steps you may want to consider:

1. Get  clear on your reason for starting your business.

Now is the time for you to really question “why” you should start your own business. You may want to dig deep and find out what it really means for you to go launch your own “thing” might be for financial reasons,freedom,flexibility and so on Remember it has nothing to do with anyone but you.Whatever your reason, knowing what motivates and drives you is what will keep you focused and committed to your dream when times get difficult.

2. Commit yourself to your dream.

Being an Entrepreneur takes a lot of personal growth to ensure the success you desire. It is mostly “deliver or die”. Having the desire for something to work vs. committing to it are vastly different. When you commit to your dream, you are making a binding obligation to see it through to success. It means you are “all in,” you find solutions when faced with obstacles and you don’t quit, no matter what. Make that pledge to yourself, and then tell the people in your life.

3. Create a personal vision for your Life and Business.

Think about what you want in your life and business a year from now and write it down. Be very specific and detailed. Describe in great detail in the present tense your ideal day, what activities you engage in, who your customers/clients are, how many customers/clients you have and what your monthly income is. Keep your focus on the results you want to see. This helps you build capacity to weather the unpredictable storms that may arise in the course of running your business.

4. Set daily goals.

Take small, measurable action steps each day toward your business, understanding there will be times when it seems like you are making no progress at all. Much of the work, in the beginning, will be tedious day-to-day tasks. Realize it is all part of building your business. By taking steps each day, which includes doing the mundane, you will start seeing results. The more progress you make, the more confidence and determination you have to keep moving forward.

By taking these actions while still working your day job, you will stay focused, motivated and committed to making your dream a reality. It will also make the time spent at your job seem to go by faster.

5. Spend more time  learning.

Research and study anything you can find that is pertinent to your business. The Internet provides an abundance of valuable information on building a successful business. Take courses, hire a coach or find a mentor. Listen to podcasts or audiobooks during your morning commute. The more you learn and become an expert in your area, the more self-assured, motivated and successful you will be.

6. Stay positive about your day job.

Every day, acknowledge something you appreciate about your job. Perhaps you enjoy your co-workers or always having holidays off. Maybe it’s just the free coffee or your comfortable chair.

The point is to look for the good things. The more you focus on what is positive about your current situation, the more success you will bring to all situations, including your business. Negative thoughts drain your energy, making it far more difficult to move forward with your dream.

Are you struggling to take a leap and start your own business?

Send an email to: or call: 08098011526 for free consultation today.

To your success!



Steps to Create your Own Success



I believe you are on the right path already this year…you have set big goals and hoping that just somewhere along the way, you will succeed right?

Let me ask you, what does Success mean to you?

We’ve all grown up hearing the cookie-cutter version of what it means to be successful. Get a fancy job, make lots of money, have a beautiful house and a loving family. Consciously or not, we tend to hold our own success up to these benchmarks.

For some people, “success” evokes images of wealth and power: a high-paying job, huge mansion, luxury car, fancy yacht, and so on.

But while these achievements and milestones may be fulfilling to some, not everyone fits into this life plan. If you spend your life chasing someone else’s dreams, you may appear successful on the outside, but inside you’ll know you’re not fulfilled.

But success is about so much more than what you HAVE….

It’s about how you FEEL.

If you wake up every morning happy and eager for the day ahead– THAT’S success.

If your heart bursts with love when you think of all the amazing people in your life – THAT’S success.

If you’re living your life’s true purpose and making a lasting positive impact on the world – THAT’S success.

First of all, it’s crucial to figure out what exactly success means to you. I mean literally sit down  and think critically about it. You may need to ask yourself these questions?

  • When have you felt most proud of yourself?
  • What would you rather spend your time doing that will give you great fulfilment but you presently aren’t doing?
  • Now, think about the last time you truly felt successful, accomplished, and beaming with pride. What were you doing? How can you add more of that experience into the rest of your life?
  • What are some definitions of success that others have ingrained inside of you? Think in specifics — are there certain people (like parents, friends, etc), who have made you feel that in order to be successful, you need to follow a certain path?
  • What is YOUR dream? Hush the voices that are trying to convince you that their version of success is your dream. Dig deep — what would make you feel accomplished and joyful if you could do it everyday?
  • How will you feel when you accomplish your version of success? Imagine the moment and describe it in detail.

Unlike what we’re told in school, success isn’t just a six-figure salary or GPA to achieve, but a framework for how to live.

It can mean different things in different aspects of your life. Maybe success, to you, means climbing the corporate Success concept.ladder to be the first female CEO at your company. Or perhaps it means being the best  stay at home mom and role model to your two kids that you can possibly be. It could even mean becoming independent enough to start your own business. Life is a big adventure — make sure the adventure you’re choosing is one that brings you joy and the feeling of accomplishment.

Sometimes your idea of success will evolve. And that’s a good thing. As you try different jobs, relationships and life paths, you’ll narrow down what drives you the most. You’ll realize some things you valued highly maybe aren’t as important to you anymore. You might find out that a certain lifestyle or achievement isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. And then you’ll be able to define your version of success even more explicitly.

It can be easy to slip into a pattern of making decisions based on other people’s expectations. It feels great to receive support and pride from your friends and family. But at the end of the day, only you are living your life. Not your parents, not your partner, not your friends.

Find out what it is that makes you happy. What makes you jump out of bed in the morning? What is it that makes you feel proud, accomplished and wildly successful? Chasing those dreams is what’s going to make you excel in life. And if anyone tries to make you feel bad for not falling into their version of success, feel free to remind them how you are creating your OWN real version of Success!

Be a part of our Success Coaching …sign up today for the Annual Personal Plan for Success (A.P.P.S) workshop and start creating your OWN success path.

Answer the questions above truthfully, there’s no need to hide from yourself. Dig deep, pay attention to what really nourishes your soul. There you will find the courage to create and live your success just the way you choose.

If you enjoyed this article, share with your friends and drop a comment on our facebook page on your own definition of Success.

Own it!



Is your Child ready for Secondary school?

It is coming to that time of year, when some parents will be preparing for their children to make the leap from Primary to Secondary School transition. As your son or daughter moves closer to graduation from primary school, there is considerable excitement and anticipation in the air.

There is also, understandably, some anxiety and nervousness about the impending transition from the caring, personalised primary system to the more impersonal, secondary environment.

How will your child cope in this new phase of development? What additional guidance and training will be needed to facilitate and sustain this transition?

Going to Secondary school can be exciting but sometimes also a bit of a scary thought for some kids, particularly if you have spent all your school life in the one school.

For most children the move from primary to secondary school is characterised by a potent mix of excitement and anxiety. Alongside the anticipation of making new friends, being treated in a more adult way and learning new things, comes uncertainty about exactly what the new school will be like and worries about stricter teachers, more homework, not being able to make friends and being around older pupils.

All of this is perfectly normal. Most children will find ways to adapt, but a sizeable minority will find change much transition workshopharder to cope with and will struggle to benefit from the opportunities offered by secondary school. For some children, who lack the strategies and support they need to cope, the transition may see the emergence of underlying mental,emotional and academic  problems and a need for additional understanding and support.

My move to Secondary School

I remember being the youngest in my class(JSS 1) when i entered secondary school at the age of 8.I was constantly being teased and called ” the smallest girl in JSS 1B”. That became my nickname.

I was lost,confused and often times depresses.Being an intelligent girl from Elementary school enabled me sit for the exams and eventually passed much to the excitement of my parents who were proud to have another child in Secondary school.But me, i became withdrawn,distant and often apprehensive. It was an experience i wasn’t prepared for.

The transition from primary to secondary school is a major change in any child’s life.This period often come with:

  • travelling to a new area to go to secondary school, possibly using public transport for the first time
  • new subjects with broader curriculum
  • a new school building
  • new timetables
  • new teachers and classmates
  • more teachers for different subjects
  • a much larger number of pupils
  • new and different routines etc

We asked some primary school students what they thought about going to high school next year and here are some of the things they said:

  • I am nervous, scared and worried because it will be a completely different school and I’ll be in the smallest year .
  • I’m worried in case I won’t fit in or make new friends because I’m leaving my friends behind.
  • I’m nervous because i have to go to a boarding school and won’t be able to watch TV all the time.
  • I have heard stories of mean girls and cliques in secondary school and am just worried about them
  • I,m scared of being bullied by my seniors and mates.

What are you looking forward to?

“Using the equipment eg. computers, science labs, kitchens.
All the different teachers I’ll have for different subjects.”
“Being in a new area and making new friends.’
“Doing lots of sport.”
“Learning new things.”
“Growing up and turning into a young adult.”

What are your concerns or fears?

I might be in a class with none of my friends.”

Harassment by other kids.”

“I think that people will tease me because I’m smaller than anyone else.”transition

“Being offered drugs, alcohol and sex”

“That the work will be too hard.”

“Getting lost and going into the wrong room.”

“Getting beaten up.”

“Being late for classes”

“Dealing with lost item”

“Dealing with mean friends”

“Being called names”

“Failing in academics.”

For children who have moved from their from their first year in secondary school, many shared their experiences:

  • I was really excited about going up because I knew I would be more independent but I was also scared about the amount of homework, harder work and that I would loose all of my friends
  • On my first day at Secondary school, i started writing with pencil when my teacher came over and asked me: “what are you doing”? staring at my pencil.I was surprised to see others looking at me and laughing because i was still writing with a pencil instead of a pen! 
  • “I was really excited about growing up because I knew I would be more independent but I was also scared about the amount of homework, harder work and that I would loose all of my friends”.
  • “There are people who will really make you angry and disrespect you, you have to learn to avoid them”.

Some children may become ‘stuck’ on the transition pathway and need help to move on to the next stage. Some children will have more of the skills needed to cope with change and some, crucially, will be at increased risk and lack the capacity to adapt. Children who have a good sense of belonging, identity, self esteem and self-efficacy and who have a wide network of supportive relationships are more likely to cope well. Those who experience social exclusion, deprivation, disadvantage or a lack of support and those who have had difficult experiences in their early years are more likely to struggle.

Both boys and girls deal with the  transition phase differently but both gender may suffer loss or damaged positive self image at this period.

For girls, the pressure to fit in, to develop her own self-identity and self-worth becomes a daily struggle especially during puberty. She often compares herself to her other classmates whom she may termed  more beautiful,smart, physically developed and getting attention from boys.  While some girls struggle with late puberty,others can’t come to terms with the sudden blossoming season their body just got into. Dealing with physical transformation(breasts,hips,buttocks developing) is too much for some girls and the “Almighty monthly flow” (menstrual cycle-cramps,pms, keeping the cycle chart,tampons/sanitary pads) might just be too much to handle.

For boys, the attainment of puberty is often welcome with excitement.Being finally called”a man” feeds the ego.A boy may struggle with alcohol,drug use, being called a weakling  or a mommy’s boy,bullying and dealing with other boys who are more physically fit and being eyed by girls.

Good preparation can help alleviate some of the difficulties or anxiety that pupils  experience at transition:

How to help

Moving from the top class of primary school, Year 6, to the bottom class of secondary,  is probably the biggest change your child will have ever known. Don’t underestimate the importance of this moment in your child’s life, even if most of their friends are going to the same school, and you have older children.

Because moving schools is such a change in their lives, your child will almost certainly be nervous. Take time to talk things through – or at least, let your child know that you realise they might be anxious and you’re willing to listen. Children often feel better about worries when they share them.

In preparing your child for secondary school it helps to step back in time and remember all those emotions you felt as you stood in your new school uniform and prepared to make the leap into the great unknown.

Whatever you do, don’t shrug off any apprehension your child says they’re feeling about starting secondary school. It’s important that you listen to their worries and have a think about what you can do to help.

5 Tips to help:

1. Be Prepared

2. Get ready to negotiate

3.Pick your fights carefully

4.Loosen the Apron strings


How we can help

A good transition is crucial to academic achievement and socio-emotional stability. If you’re not sure how to help your child, sign up for our Two-day “Moving On” Transition workshop.

Your child will be able to:

  • Move forward to embrace the transition phase and its changes instead of rejecting and running from it.
  • Build resilience, handle conflict and understand how to manage emotions positively
  • Develop organization skills, time management and increase sense of self -worth.
  • Learn how to use their inner power to make healthy choices and respond to situations.
  • Develop critical thinking and problem solving skills.
  • Learn how to deal with cliques, bullies and not being a victim.

To your Success!

Love & Brilliance.

Contact us on:08098011526, 08068880123


Who’s in Your Front Row?

I love fashion and everything it represents…most especially Fashion Week! If you aren’t seated in the first three rows at a show during Fashion Week, you might as well stay home. Well, if the first three rows are where the power players sit, then it goes without saying that the crème de la crème of the fashion world sits in the front row, and the front row only.

Obviously, sitting in the front row is important to fashion show attendees, but it’s also extremely important to designers.  Many designers are judged just as harshly by who sits in those seats than by the clothes that come down the runway.front row

Life is like a Fashion  show, so invite your audiences carefully. Not everyone should  have a FRONT ROW seat in our lives.The people you choose to share your Front Row with are going to determine the success of your Life.

There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance.

It’s amazing what you can accomplish when you let go, or at least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not-going-anywhere relationships, friendships and family!

Everyone Can’t be in Your FRONT ROW.

Observe the relationships around you. Pay attention. Which ones lift and which ones lean? Which ones encourage and which ones discourage? Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are going downhill? When you leave certain people do you feel better or feel worse? Which ones always have drama or don’t really understand, know or appreciate you?

The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you… the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the front row and who should be moved to the balcony of YOUR LIFE.

” If you cannot change the people around you, Change the people you are around.”

Remember that the people we hang with have an impact both our lives and our income. And so we must be careful to choose the people we hang out with, as well as the information with which we feed our minds. We should not share our dreams with negative people, nor feed our dreams with negative thoughts.

It is your choice and your life. It is up to you, who and what you let in..



Love & Brilliance Always!

Secrets to Ease your Soul

The nature of your thoughts determine what you will attract in your life.

… whether for good or for ill.

If you’re always self-conscious about your achievements, worry about the future, or feel you’re not good enough to achieve success in your life….Attraction…the Law of Attraction says that you will attract negative results and people into your life.If on the other hand you believe good things will happen to you when you work hard and spend time on your goals and dreams, those things will happen for you.

Even though you may spend the time required to achieve success, happiness and abundance in your life, it’s not easy to keep your head above water every single day.Life gets chaotic, and every day brings new challenges in different forms.Even the most productive, talented and intelligent people in the world have trouble calming their thoughts and finding peace for the soul.

But to achieve what you want and keep plugging along in this journey we call life, you have to find a way to calm your stressed out mind and ease your troubled soul.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed and overworked on your journey to success and lasting happiness and abundance, try to implement the following three tips into your life routine.
#1: Cut Out Television Time for a Few Days
Television time can be a great way to relax after a long day, but it can also contribute to higher levels of stress.
Much of what our society views on televisions makes us feel lousy about ourselves, implants in us a greater desire for material possessions and things, and exposes us to content that’s not always best for our individual growth and development.
The best way to get in touch with your own self and calm your cluttered mind and soul is to turn off the television for a few days.This doesn’t mean you have to completely ignore all media, but it does mean you should be careful about what type of media you consume. Within a few days you will feel a difference.I promise.

#2: Forget Doing the Things You Don’t Have Time for
I’m guilty of creating endless lists of tasks for myself to complete that I know I’ll never get to, so sometimes I literally have to go through the items and decide which tasks I’m just going to forget about.
It may seem counterproductive to completely ignore important tasks, but it’s actually very healthy.When you admit to yourself that you can’t be Superman or Superwoman all the time, you immediately release all the tension associated with all those tasks.So forget about a few tasks every week, and if they are important enough, you can always complete them at a later date.

#3: Live in the Moment
So much of what we do in life is focused on the future (future jobs, future vacations, future children, future money and fame), but how much time do we actually spend just enjoying the current moment?
I know this tip might come off as a little cliché, but it actually pays off if you implement it.When you learn to live in the moment you learn how to better connect with the people you’re close with, and you also learn what it means to be alive.After all, the purpose of life is to live it!

Learn to Live IT!
The Abundance project.

Criticism-How do you deal with it?

We all get hit by life’s slings and arrows from time to time. They can come from a resident critic—a family member, friend, or co-worker who always finds something wrong—or as the occasional put-down that catches you by surprise. What do you do when an insult is hurled your way, privately or publicly? Do you pretend you didn’t hear it or hurl an insult right back? Do you internalize it or get angry and lash out?

You may not be able to stop someone’s nasty words or careless actions, but you can change how you deal with those barbs. They don’t have to take you down or tempt you to retaliate.

Look, not everyone’s going to like you (or me). That’s reality. Different strokes for different folks.38-CriticismHurts-540x326

But if you want to create anything meaningful in this world, it’s important to develop your own winning strategy for handling criticism. Both tactically and emotionally.

Because it will happen. Some criticism will contain valuable insights for positive growth, and much of it will not.

So, how do you cope with criticism?

I can let critical, rude remarks cut me to my core, so I start to doubt and question myself, and feel like running and hiding out.

If I let them.

Thankfully, now, I have a much different outlook towards criticism and the way I deal with it.

How do I cope with criticism?

I follow the: Who; What; How method.

  • Who is the criticism coming from?

  • What are they criticising? Is it relevant to me? Or is it their stuff?

  • How will I react/respond?

  • Move on.

Using this method, should give you a far better approach and outcome, should you ever find yourself in the firing line of criticism, as my mentor did:

Who: Be totally clear on your ideal client and what he/she needs and appreciates, and aim to serve them and ONLY them. Trying to serve everyone will result in your being of service to no-one. Be of service to YOUR ideal client and don’t worry about what other people think.

What: Don’t take criticism personally. The critical (and nasty) comments people make are a direct reflection of where THEY are in their life journey. They are NOT about you.

Try this: Pull away from the situation and look at it without ego, as if you were observing someone else’s life. Is it possible you are being overly sensitive, or has someone treated you like a doormat without good reason?  A clear sense of which it is will help you find the best solution.

How: You are always ‘at choice.’ Meaning that you are free to make a decision as to whether you’re going to accept the criticism and make changes. Or not. The decision is yours.

Take action, which can sometimes mean ignoring(don’t give it much thought) the comments. And, move on.

So, if you’ve found yourself at the prickly end of someone’s criticism, use the Who; What; and How method – it really works!

Then, remember to move on!

Now, I’d love to hear from you.

How do you deal with criticism in your life? Or are there any really priceless comments, tweets or shares that you’ve gotten that now make you laugh? Let me know in the comments below.

Remember, share with as much love and compassion as you can.

Love & Brilliance!